nvme-rdma: add support for duplicate_connect option

Adds support for the duplicate_connect option. When set to true,
checks whether there's an existing controller via the same target
address (traddr), target port (trsvcid), and if specified, host
address (host_traddr). Fails the connection request if there is
an existing controller.

Signed-off-by: James Smart <james.smart@broadcom.com>
Reviewed-by: Johannes Thumshirn <jthumshirn@suse.de>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>