kvm: set/clear kvm to/from vfio_group when group add/delete

Sometimes users need to be aware when a vfio_group attaches to a
KVM or detaches from it. KVM already calls get/put method from vfio to
manipulate the vfio_group reference, it can notify vfio_group in
a similar way.

Cc: Kirti Wankhede <kwankhede@nvidia.com>
Cc: Xiao Guangrong <guangrong.xiao@linux.intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jike Song <jike.song@intel.com>
Acked-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>