dlm: remove callback reference counting

Get rid of the unnecessary refcounting on callback structs.
Copy interesting callback info into the lkb struct rather
than maintaining pointers to callback structs from the lkb.
This goes back to the way things were done prior to
commit 61bed0ba ("fs: dlm: use a non-static queue for callbacks").

Signed-off-by: Alexander Aring <aahringo@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>