md/raid10: fix io loss while replacement replace rdev

When removing a disk with replacement, the replacement will be used to
replace rdev. During this process, there is a brief window in which both
rdev and replacement are read as NULL in raid10_write_request(). This
will result in io not being submitted but it should be.

  //remove				//write
  raid10_remove_disk			raid10_write_request
   mirror->rdev = NULL
					 read rdev -> NULL
   mirror->rdev = mirror->replacement
   mirror->replacement = NULL
					 read replacement -> NULL

Fix it by reading replacement first and rdev later, meanwhile, use smp_mb()
to prevent memory reordering.

Fixes: 475b0321 ("md/raid10: writes should get directed to replacement as well as original.")
Signed-off-by: Li Nan <linan122@huawei.com>
Reviewed-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230602091839.743798-3-linan666@huaweicloud.com