block: add a separate operation type for secure erase

Instead of overloading the discard support with the REQ_SECURE flag.
Use the opportunity to rename the queue flag as well, and remove the
dead checks for this flag in the RAID 1 and RAID 10 drivers that don't
claim support for secure erase.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>