veth: try harder when allocating queue memory

struct veth_rq is pretty large, 832B total without debug
options enabled. Since commit under Fixes we try to pre-allocate
enough queues for every possible CPU. Miao Wang reports that
this may lead to order-5 allocations which will fail in production.

Let the allocation fallback to vmalloc() and try harder.
These are the same flags we pass to netdev queue allocation.

Reported-and-tested-by: Miao Wang <shankerwangmiao@gmail.com>
Fixes: 9d3684c2 ("veth: create by default nr_possible_cpus queues")
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/all/5F52CAE2-2FB7-4712-95F1-3312FBBFA8DD@gmail.com/


Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20240223235908.693010-1-kuba@kernel.org


Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>