xfs: make xfs_bmbt_to_iomap more useful

Move checking for invalid zero blocks and setting of various iomap flags
into this helper.  Also make it deal with "raw" delalloc extents to
avoid clutter in the callers.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>