vhost-net: avoid flush under lock

We flush under vq mutex when changing backends.
This creates a deadlock as workqueue being flushed
needs this lock as well.

https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=612421

Drop the vq mutex before flush: we have the device mutex
which is sufficient to prevent another ioctl from touching
the vq.

Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>