md: only delete entries from all_mddevs when the disk is freed

This ensures device names don't get prematurely reused.  Instead add a
deleted flag to skip already deleted devices in mddev_get and other
places that only want to see live mddevs.

Reported-by: Logan Gunthorpe <logang@deltatee.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>
Reviewed-by: Logan Gunthorpe <logang@deltatee.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>