fs: dlm: use listen sock as dlm running indicator

This patch will switch from dlm_allow_conn to check if dlm lowcomms is
running or not to if we actually have a listen socket set or not. The
list socket will be set and unset in lowcomms start and shutdown
functionality. To synchronize with data_ready() callback we will set the
socket callback to NULL while socket lock is held.

Signed-off-by: Alexander Aring <aahringo@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>