nfs: define and use the NFS_INO_INVALID_XATTR flag

Define the NFS_INO_INVALID_XATTR flag, to be used for the NFSv4.2 xattr
cache, and use it where appropriate.

No functional change as yet.

Signed-off-by: Frank van der Linden <fllinden@amazon.com>
Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <trond.myklebust@hammerspace.com>