Improve RFC 8446 PSK key exchange mode compliance

It's a MUST-level requirement that if the client sends a pre_shared_key
extension not accompanied by a psk_key_exchange_modes extension, the
server must abort the handshake.  Prior to this commit the server
would continue on.

Reviewed-by: Tomas Mraz <tomas@openssl.org>

(cherry picked from commit efe0f315)

(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/15255)