[mlir] ConversionTarget legality callbacks refactoring

* Get rid of Optional<std::function> as std::function already have a null state
* Add private setLegalityCallback function to set legality callback for unknown ops
* Get rid of unknownOpsDynamicallyLegal flag, use unknownLegalityFn state insted. This causes behavior change when user first calls markUnknownOpDynamicallyLegal with callback and then without but I am not sure is the original behavior was really a 'feature', or just oversignt in the original implementation.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D105496