ipvs: allow connection reuse for unconfirmed conntrack

YangYuxi is reporting that connection reuse
is causing one-second delay when SYN hits
existing connection in TIME_WAIT state.
Such delay was added to give time to expire
both the IPVS connection and the corresponding
conntrack. This was considered a rare case
at that time but it is causing problem for
some environments such as Kubernetes.

As nf_conntrack_tcp_packet() can decide to
release the conntrack in TIME_WAIT state and
to replace it with a fresh NEW conntrack, we
can use this to allow rescheduling just by
tuning our check: if the conntrack is
confirmed we can not schedule it to different
real server and the one-second delay still
applies but if new conntrack was created,
we are free to select new real server without
any delays.

YangYuxi lists some of the problem reports:

- One second connection delay in masquerading mode:
https://marc.info/?t=151683118100004&r=1&w=2

- IPVS low throughput #70747
https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/issues/70747

- Apache Bench can fill up ipvs service proxy in seconds #544
https://github.com/cloudnativelabs/kube-router/issues/544

- Additional 1s latency in `host -> service IP -> pod`
https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/issues/90854

Fixes: f719e375

 ("ipvs: drop first packet to redirect conntrack")
Co-developed-by: YangYuxi <yx.atom1@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: YangYuxi <yx.atom1@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Julian Anastasov <ja@ssi.bg>
Reviewed-by: Simon Horman <horms@verge.net.au>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>