RDMA/cm: Fix ordering of xa_alloc_cyclic() in ib_create_cm_id()

xa_alloc_cyclic() is a SMP release to be paired with some later acquire
during xa_load() as part of cm_acquire_id().

As such, xa_alloc_cyclic() must be done after the cm_id is fully
initialized, in particular, it absolutely must be after the
refcount_set(), otherwise the refcount_inc() in cm_acquire_id() may not
see the set.

As there are several cases where a reader will be able to use the
id.local_id after cm_acquire_id in the IB_CM_IDLE state there needs to be
an unfortunate split into a NULL allocate and a finalizing xa_store.

Fixes: a977049d

 ("[PATCH] IB: Add the kernel CM implementation")
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20200310092545.251365-2-leon@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>