io_uring: add task-refs-get helper

As we have a more complicated task referencing, which apart from normal
task references includes taking tctx->inflight and caching all that, it
would be a good idea to have all that isolated in helpers.

Signed-off-by: Pavel Begunkov <asml.silence@gmail.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/d9114d037f1c195897aa13f38a496078eca2afdb.1630023531.git.asml.silence@gmail.com
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>