netlink: Add new socket option to enable strict checking on dumps

Add a new socket option, NETLINK_DUMP_STRICT_CHK, that userspace
can use via setsockopt to request strict checking of headers and
attributes on dump requests.

To get dump features such as kernel side filtering based on data in
the header or attributes appended to the dump request, userspace
must call setsockopt() for NETLINK_DUMP_STRICT_CHK and a non-zero
value. Since the netlink sock and its flags are private to the
af_netlink code, the strict checking flag is passed to dump handlers
via a flag in the netlink_callback struct.

For old userspace on new kernel there is no impact as all of the data
checks in later patches are wrapped in a check on the new strict flag.

For new userspace on old kernel, the setsockopt will fail and even if
new userspace sets data in the headers and appended attributes the
kernel will silently ignore it. Moving forward when the setsockopt
succeeds, the new userspace on old kernel means the dump request can
pass...