nvme-pci: implement host memory buffer support

If a controller supports the host memory buffer we try to provide
it with the requested size up to an upper cap set as a module
parameter.  We try to give as few as possible descriptors, eventually
working our way down.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Keith Busch <keith.busch@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Reviewed-by: Max Gurtovoy <maxg@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Johannes Thumshirn <jthumshirn@suse.de>