netfilter: conntrack: convert to refcount_t api

Convert nf_conn reference counting from atomic_t to refcount_t based api.
refcount_t api provides more runtime sanity checks and will warn on
certain constructs, e.g. refcount_inc() on a zero reference count, which
usually indicates use-after-free.

For this reason template allocation is changed to init the refcount to
1, the subsequenct add operations are removed.

Likewise, init_conntrack() is changed to set the initial refcount to 1
instead refcount_inc().

This is safe because the new entry is not (yet) visible to other cpus.

Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>