nfsd4: fix forechannel attribute negotiation

Negotiation of the 4.1 session forechannel attributes is a mess.  Fix:

	- Move it all into check_forechannel_attrs instead of spreading
	  it between that, alloc_session, and init_forechannel_attrs.
	- set a minimum "slotsize" so that our drc memory limits apply
	  even for small maxresponsesize_cached.  This also fixes some
	  bugs when slotsize becomes <= 0.

Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>