io_uring: prevent racy sqd->thread checks

SQPOLL thread to which we're trying to attach may be going away, it's
not nice but a more serious problem is if io_sq_offload_create() sees
sqd->thread==NULL, and tries to init it with a new thread. There are
tons of ways it can be exploited or fail.

Signed-off-by: Pavel Begunkov <asml.silence@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>