vfio/mlx5: Improve the target side flow to reduce downtime

Improve the target side flow to reduce downtime as of below.

- Support reading an optional record which includes the expected
  stop_copy size.
- Once the source sends this record data, which expects to be sent as
  part of the pre_copy flow, prepare the data buffers that may be large
  enough to hold the final stop_copy data.

The above reduces the migration downtime as the relevant stuff that is
needed to load the image data is prepared ahead as part of pre_copy.

Signed-off-by: Yishai Hadas <yishaih@nvidia.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230124144955.139901-4-yishaih@nvidia.com
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>