md: fix missing flush of sync_work

Commit ac619781 ("md: use separate work_struct for md_start_sync()")
use a new sync_work to replace del_work, however, stop_sync_thread() and
__md_stop_writes() was trying to wait for sync_thread to be done, hence
they should switch to use sync_work as well.

Noted that md_start_sync() from sync_work will grab 'reconfig_mutex',
hence other contex can't held the same lock to flush work, and this will
be fixed in later patches.

Fixes: ac619781 ("md: use separate work_struct for md_start_sync()")
Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Acked-by: Xiao Ni <xni@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20231205094215.1824240-2-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com