md: implement ->free_disk

Ensure that all private data is only freed once all accesses are done.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Logan Gunthorpe <logang@deltatee.com>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>