nvme: ensure reset state check ordering

A different CPU may be setting the ctrl->state value, so ensure proper
barriers to prevent optimizing to a stale state. Normally it isn't a
problem to observe the wrong state as it is merely advisory to take a
quicker path during initialization and error recovery, but seeing an old
state can report unexpected ENETRESET errors when a reset request was in
fact successful.

Reported-by: Minh Hoang <mh2022@meta.com>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Signed-off-by: Keith Busch <kbusch@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>