btrfs: add assertion helpers for spinning writers

Add helpers for conditional DEBUG build to assert that the extent buffer
spinning_writers constraints are met. Will be used in followup patches.

Reviewed-by: Nikolay Borisov <nborisov@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: Johannes Thumshirn <jthumshirn@suse.de>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>