xfs: merge the ->diff_items defer op into ->create_intent

This avoids a per-item indirect call, and also simplifies the interface
a bit.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Brian Foster <bfoster@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>