net/mlx5e: Protect mod_hdr hash table with mutex

To remove dependency on rtnl lock, protect mod_hdr hash table from
concurrent modifications with new mutex.

Implement helper function to get flow namespace to prevent code
duplication.

Signed-off-by: Vlad Buslov <vladbu@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Roi Dayan <roid@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Saeed Mahameed <saeedm@mellanox.com>