btrfs: record simple quota deltas in delayed refs

At the moment that we run delayed refs, we make the final ref-count
based decision on creating/removing extent (and metadata) items.
Therefore, it is exactly the spot to hook up simple quotas.

There are a few important subtleties to the fields we must collect to
accurately track simple quotas, particularly when removing an extent.
When removing a data extent, the ref could be in any tree (due to
reflink, for example) and so we need to recover the owning root id from
the owner ref item. When removing a metadata extent, we know the owning
root from the owner field in the header when we create the delayed ref,
so we can recover it from there.

We must also be careful to handle reservations properly to not leaked
reserved space. The happy path is freeing the reservation when the
simple quota delta runs on a data extent. If that doesn't happen, due to
refs canceling out or some error, the ref head already has the
must_insert_reserved machinery to handle this, so we piggy back on that
and use it to clean up the reserved data.

Signed-off-by: Boris Burkov <boris@bur.io>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>