act_mirred: use the backlog for nested calls to mirred ingress

William reports kernel soft-lockups on some OVS topologies when TC mirred
egress->ingress action is hit by local TCP traffic [1].
The same can also be reproduced with SCTP (thanks Xin for verifying), when
client and server reach themselves through mirred egress to ingress, and
one of the two peers sends a "heartbeat" packet (from within a timer).

Enqueueing to backlog proved to fix this soft lockup; however, as Cong
noticed [2], we should preserve - when possible - the current mirred
behavior that counts as "overlimits" any eventual packet drop subsequent to
the mirred forwarding action [3]. A compromise solution might use the
backlog only when tcf_mirred_act() has a nest level greater than one:
change tcf_mirred_forward() accordingly.

Also, add a kselftest that can reproduce the lockup and verifies TC mirred
ability to account for further packet drops after TC mirred egress->ingress
(when the nest level is 1).

 [1] https://lore.kernel.org/netdev/33dc43f587ec1388ba456b4915c75f02a8aae226.1663945716.git.dcaratti@redhat.com/
 [2] https://lore.kernel.org/netdev/Y0w%2FWWY60gqrtGLp@pop-os.localdomain/
 [3] such behavior is not guaranteed: for example, if RPS or skb RX
     timestamping is enabled on the mirred target device, the kernel
     can defer receiving the skb and return NET_RX_SUCCESS inside
     tcf_mirred_forward().

Reported-by: William Zhao <wizhao@redhat.com>
CC: Xin Long <lucien.xin@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Davide Caratti <dcaratti@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Marcelo Ricardo Leitner <marcelo.leitner@gmail.com>
Acked-by: Jamal Hadi Salim <jhs@mojatatu.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>