nfsd: take xattr bits into account for permission checks

Since the NFSv4.2 extended attributes extension defines 3 new access
bits for xattr operations, take them in to account when validating
what the client is asking for, and when checking permissions.

Signed-off-by: Frank van der Linden <fllinden@amazon.com>
Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>