RDS: TCP: Synchronize accept() and connect() paths on t_conn_lock.

An arbitration scheme for duelling SYNs is implemented as part of
commit 241b2719 ("RDS-TCP: Reset tcp callbacks if re-using an
outgoing socket in rds_tcp_accept_one()") which ensures that both nodes
involved will arrive at the same arbitration decision. However, this
needs to be synchronized with an outgoing SYN to be generated by
rds_tcp_conn_connect(). This commit achieves the synchronization
through the t_conn_lock mutex in struct rds_tcp_connection.

The rds_conn_state is checked in rds_tcp_conn_connect() after acquiring
the t_conn_lock mutex.  A SYN is sent out only if the RDS connection is
not already UP (an UP would indicate that rds_tcp_accept_one() has
completed 3WH, so no SYN needs to be generated).

Similarly, the rds_conn_state is checked in rds_tcp_accept_one() after
acquiring the t_conn_lock mutex. The only acceptable states (to
allow continuation of the arbitration logic) are UP (i.e., outgoing SYN
was SYN-ACKed by peer after it sent us the SYN) or CONNECTING (we sent
outgoing SYN before we saw incoming SYN).

Signed-off-by: Sowmini Varadhan <sowmini.varadhan@oracle.com>
Acked-by: Santosh Shilimkar <santosh.shilimkar@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>