netfilter: use rcu_dereference_protected()

Restore the rcu_dereference() calls in conntrack/expectation notifier
and logger registration/unregistration, but use the _protected variant,
which will be required by the upcoming __rcu annotations.

Based on patch by Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>

Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>