net/smc: cancel send and receive for terminated socket

The resources for a terminated socket are being cleaned up.
This patch makes sure
* no more data is received for an actively terminated socket
* no more data is sent for an actively or passively terminated socket

Signed-off-by: Ursula Braun <ubraun@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Karsten Graul <kgraul@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <jakub.kicinski@netronome.com>