can: dev: fix skb drop check

In commit a6d190f8 ("can: skb: drop tx skb if in listen only
mode") the priv->ctrlmode element is read even on virtual CAN
interfaces that do not create the struct can_priv at startup. This
out-of-bounds read may lead to CAN frame drops for virtual CAN
interfaces like vcan and vxcan.

This patch mainly reverts the original commit and adds a new helper
for CAN interface drivers that provide the required information in
struct can_priv.

Fixes: a6d190f8

 ("can: skb: drop tx skb if in listen only mode")
Reported-by: Dariusz Stojaczyk <Dariusz.Stojaczyk@opensynergy.com>
Cc: Vincent Mailhol <mailhol.vincent@wanadoo.fr>
Cc: Max Staudt <max@enpas.org>
Signed-off-by: Oliver Hartkopp <socketcan@hartkopp.net>
Acked-by: Vincent Mailhol <mailhol.vincent@wanadoo.fr>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/all/20221102095431.36831-1-socketcan@hartkopp.net
Cc: stable@vger.kernel.org # 6.0.x
[mkl: patch pch_can, too]
Signed-off-by: Marc Kleine-Budde <mkl@pengutronix.de>