rcu: Use wrapper for lockdep asserts

Commits c0b334c5 and ea9b0c8a introduced new sparse warnings
by accessing rcu_node->lock directly and ignoring the __private
marker.  Introduce a new wrapper and use it.  Also fix a similar problem
in srcutree.c introduced by a3883df3

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Signed-off-by: Matthew Wilcox <mawilcox@microsoft.com>
Signed-off-by: Paul E. McKenney <paulmck@linux.vnet.ibm.com>