nbd: add a flag to destroy an nbd device on disconnect

For ease of management it would be nice for users to specify that the
device node for a nbd device is destroyed once it is disconnected and
there are no more users.  Add a client flag and enable this operation to
happen.

Signed-off-by: Josef Bacik <jbacik@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>