xfs: compact deferred intent item structures

Rearrange these structs to reduce the amount of unused padding bytes.
This saves eight bytes for each of the three structs changed here, which
means they're now all (rmap/bmap are 64 bytes, refc is 32 bytes) even
powers of two.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Chandan Babu R <chandan.babu@oracle.com>