RDMA/iw_cxgb4: Add few history bits for ep

- add EP_DISC_FAIL history bit
- add QP_REFED/DEREFED history bits
- Add functions to ref/deref the cm_id and add history bit for the same
- add CLOSE_CON_RPL history

Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Hariprasad Shenai <hariprasad@chelsio.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>