netlink: convert nlk->flags to atomic flags

sk_diag_put_flags(), netlink_setsockopt(), netlink_getsockopt()
and others use nlk->flags without correct locking.

Use set_bit(), clear_bit(), test_bit(), assign_bit() to remove
data-races.

Reported-by: syzbot <syzkaller@googlegroups.com>
Signed-off-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Simon Horman <horms@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>