vhost-net: mergeable buffers support

This adds support for mergeable buffers in vhost-net: this is needed
for older guests without indirect buffer support, as well
as for zero copy with some devices.

Includes changes by Michael S. Tsirkin to make the
patch as low risk as possible (i.e., close to no changes
when feature is disabled).

Signed-off-by: David Stevens <dlstevens@us.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>