dmaengine: Add reference counting to dma_device struct

Adding a reference count helps drivers to properly implement the unbind
while in use case.

References are taken and put every time a channel is allocated or freed.

Once the final reference is put, the device is removed from the
dma_device_list and a release callback function is called to signal
the driver to free the memory.

Signed-off-by: Logan Gunthorpe <logang@deltatee.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20191216190120.21374-5-logang@deltatee.com
Signed-off-by: Vinod Koul <vkoul@kernel.org>