tools: ynl: allow setting recv() size

Make the size of the buffer we use for recv() configurable.
The details of the buffer sizing in netlink are somewhat
arcane, we could spend a lot of time polishing this API.
Let's just leave some hopefully helpful comments for now.
This is a for-developers-only feature, anyway.

Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Donald Hunter <donald.hunter@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>