xfs: don't use delalloc extents for COW on files with extsize hints

While using delalloc for extsize hints is generally a good idea, the
current code that does so only for COW doesn't help us much and creates
a lot of special cases.  Switch it to use real allocations like we
do for direct I/O.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>