ALSA: control: Don't embed ctl_dev

Embedding the ctl_dev in the snd_card object may result in UAF when
the delayed kobj release is used; at the delayed kobj release, it
still accesses the struct device itself while the card memory (that
embeds the struct device) may be already gone.

As a workaround, detach the struct device from the card object by
allocating via the new snd_device_alloc() helper.  The rest are just
replacing ctl_dev access to the pointer.

This is based on the fix Curtis posted initially.  In this patch, the
changes are split and use the new helper function instead.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230801171928.1460120-1-cujomalainey@chromium.org
Reviewed-by: Jaroslav Kysela <perex@perex.cz>
Signed-off-by: Curtis Malainey <cujomalainey@chromium.org>
Tested-by: Curtis Malainey <cujomalainey@chromium.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230816160252.23396-3-tiwai@suse.de
Signed-off-by: Takashi Iwai <tiwai@suse.de>