RDMA/mlx5: Use RCU and direct refcounts to keep memory alive

dispatch_event_fd() runs from a notifier with minimal locking, and relies
on RCU and a file refcount to keep the uobject and eventfd alive.

As the next patch wants to remove the file_operations release function
from the drivers, re-organize things so that the devx_event_notifier()
path uses the existing RCU to manage the lifetime of the uobject and
eventfd.

Move the refcount puts to a call_rcu so that the objects are guaranteed to
exist and remove the indirect file refcount.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/1578504126-9400-2-git-send-email-yishaih@mellanox.com
Signed-off-by: Yishai Hadas <yishaih@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>