mctp: Pass flow data & flow release events to drivers

Now that we have an extension for MCTP data in skbs, populate the flow
when a key has been created for the packet, and add a device driver
operation to inform of flow destruction.

Includes a fix for a warning with test builds:
Reported-by: kernel test robot <lkp@intel.com>

Signed-off-by: Jeremy Kerr <jk@codeconstruct.com.au>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>