RDMA/core: Align write and ioctl checks of QP types

The ioctl flow checks that the user provides only a supported list of QP
types, while write flow didn't do it and relied on the driver to check
it. Align those flows to fail as early as possible.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20200926102450.2966017-8-leon@kernel.org
Reviewed-by: Maor Gottlieb <maorg@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>