xfs: remove xfs_da_args.attr_flags

This field only ever contains XATTR_{CREATE,REPLACE}, and it only goes
as deep as xfs_attr_set.  Remove the field from the structure and
replace it with an enum specifying exactly what kind of change we want
to make to the xattr structure.  Upsert is the name that we'll give to
the flags==0 operation, because we're either updating an existing value
or inserting it, and the caller doesn't care.

Note: The "UPSERTR" name created here is to make userspace porting
easier.  It will be removed in the next patch.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>