io_uring/cancel: don't default to setting req->work.cancel_seq

Just leave it unset by default, avoiding dipping into the last
cacheline (which is otherwise untouched) for the fast path of using
poll to drive networked traffic. Add a flag that tells us if the
sequence is valid or not, and then we can defer actually assigning
the flag and sequence until someone runs cancelations.

Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>